As a therapist and kink practitioner, I am committed to increasing access and reducing stigma around kink and BDSM.

Kink can be in our lives as a fun hobby, a dedicated lifestyle, or as an opportunity for deep growth and healing, both individually and collectively. Or all of the above!

I have been engaging in kink practices of various kinds for the past decade and have been attending trainings on aspects of culturally competent care for erotically diverse clients for the past 6+ years. I explore at the intersections of kink identities, communities, behaviors, and fantasies, and how they affect health and well-being.

I am available for orientation trainings and consultations for therapists wanting a more kink-affirming practice. This can range from an introduction to basic concepts to clinical red flags and trauma healing opportunities.

I also teach in-person introductory workshops and private lessons on some of the technical aspects of kink, such as:

• Impact Toys and Impact Play
• Playing with Needles and other Sharp Things
• Single-tail Whips

All trainings and consultations will include some basics on consent and negotiation as well as content recognizing the oppressive roots and origins of many of kink’s activities. Nothing we do exists in a vacuum and play time is no different. However we are engaging with kink, if we don’t learn about and reconcile with these unfortunate histories and realities, we risk perpetuating them. Instead, let’s welcome the invitation to cultivate and practice accountability!

To this end, I encourage you to learn some more through the links below –

Understanding Kink and BDSM’s Oppressive History

JB Brager:Fascism pt1 – Why Are People Into That?! and JB Brager:Fascism pt2 – Why Are People Into That?! – two episodes of a podcast discussing the seductive fantasy of surrender, violence, and mindless belonging as well as the historical roots of leather aesthetics within fascism and militarism

decolonizing.love on the connection between hojojutsu and modern shibari  – a short explanation recognizing the historical use of rope in prisons and by police

decolonizing.love on looking at BDSM through a critical decolonization lens – an encouragement to engage with the ways domination and hierarchy are being rehearsed, aestheticized, and normalized within BDSM 

‘Playing’ With Race: BDSM, Race Play, and Whiteness in Kink – examines the impact of white supremacy within BDSM, particularly the privilege of whiteness in not having to negotiate race within play, whereas the racialized body is unable to escape the ‘reality’ of race, and the blurring of historical suffering and pleasure

Intro to Kink Resources

Wicked Jester’s Kink & BDSM Resources Index – Seattle-based list of resources with info on consent, negotiation and newbie guides

TheDuchy – learn about rope bondage, shibari and other rope-related BDSM skills

Kink and Healing

Using Kink to Heal Past Trauma – research done by the American Psychological Association’s Division 44: BDSM Task Force exploring the risks and benefits of trauma-informed kink play for psychosomatic healing

Kink and Flourishing Study by TASHRA – the first large-scale scientific study exploring the potential of kink as a catalyst for trauma healing and improved mental well-being 

Kink Research

Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS)– dedicated to the support and promotion of excellence in the study of alternative sexualities, and the dissemination of research results to the alternative sexuality communities, the public, and the research community.

The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance (TASHRA)– healthcare professional training and healthcare research to explore the interaction between kink and health